When I was growing up I always had a steady girlfriend and our sex life was pretty normal, Additionally, a few people do have negative misconceptions about the act, perhaps relating to an overly restrictive upbringing Toy with her nipples, caress her body, nuzzle her neck, lick every little part If you can rock a woman's world with the ultimate orgasm before you begin things will be much easier for you and much more pleasurable for her. Some because they are just not anally erotic, others because an ignorant or insensitive lover bungled their first time attempt, As before, you can pleasure her breasts, her clitoris, and watch her climax Help your partner get ready by doing all those things you know she loves, But that's another story Final Destination So, class, what have we learned. After we broke up, sex with the next girlfriend/s was basically the same as the first one. She again told me about her fantasy of fucking a guy, It is an involuntary muscle (like your heart pumping) and fear or anxiety will cause it to tense and to close tightly - ve, I had no idea what she was talking about. If the receiver has never participated in anal play, it may take anywhere from a few days to a few weeks to get her ready to graduate to something as large as a penis or dildo Keep it wet and keep her cumming and you should both love this adventure It also works great if you want to have some fun in the shower or tub. That just doesn't happen What kind of lube you ask - Don't start thrusting immediately I would recommend a minimum of 20 minutes of foreplay for women depending on her sensitivity and her partner's ability to accomplish bringing her to the edge and back for an overpowering orgasm she will never forget. Why the Fascination with Anal Stimulation Count 'em, two She will certainly appreciate your efforts - She should certainly be aware of her limitations; what feels good, what does not, and how much length and girth she thinks she can tolerate in her tightest hole. Without that awareness, if her parts are numb, you could accidentally harm her and neither of you would realize it until much later. The first you will encounter is called the outer sphincter, But exploding in her snug ass will be an incredibly passionate experience. (I'm smiling as I type this, thinking of your expressions) Don't try and talk her into letting you keep trying, Once the head of your cock is inserted cease all forward momentum. I hope that both men and women who read this article do find something useful within it. Still considered somewhat socially taboo, it can add excitement, spice, and a feeling of naughty or nasty play Clean and trim your fingernails. Pay attention to all those exposed areas of her inner flesh, flicking with your tongue, taking little nibbles - Eventually that may not be necessary, and if she is indeed anally erotic, she won't even need all the relaxation and preparation Anal play is often part of successful Dominant/submissive relationships, If you use enough lube and preparation you should be able to do this part with little trouble. Of course my eyes popped out of my head and I asked her "what do you think you are going to do with that, You might re-apply lube from time to time until she is ready for you to fill her up and fuck her. However, if at anytime, she feels pain and tells you stop, do it, Oil-based lubes, such as petroleum jelly, quickly cause condoms to degrade Do this again, and again, and again, and again, Good luck in all your anal sex endeavors and have fun - Recipients should be in good digestive health, diet is very important, obviously, and have had a bowel movement recently, Some suggest you bring your partner to orgasm first before even attempting anal When she gasps and moans and pushes herself back against your body, smile and increase your thrusting speed and strength. An equally high percentage of women that I have spoken to regret having anal sex or dread it when it happens, Make certain you ARE in the center Start with just the tip and thrust very slightly, only allowing the length you are pushing into her to increase as she adjusts Some couples reserve it for special occasions or to culminate the evening's sexual activities, others offer it to their lover as a gift It is a voluntary muscle and can be easily controlled by the recipient (take a moment and clench your ass - you can tell) Friction causes drying out or off however you look at it and then it becomes painful sometimes - If you wore a condom when you fucked her ass, then of course, you can replace it with a fresh one or take it off and then penetrate her pussy Use copious amounts, Some couples prefer this because they know they won't encounter any unexpected fecal matter, but it's not something you must do, ) your skills will improve and your sexual repertoire will expand - She told me she wanted to do more. Naughty Missionary She lays on her back with a pillow under her rear. Me being so na - Unlike most porn flicks, pussy juices and spit are usually not enough to ease your path, certainly not if this is a first time event for her - Hopefully your partner's sighs will encourage further naughty activities - The best way to start playing with her ass is while you are digitally or orally pleasing her pussy Since you are reading this story, you've obviously been able to overcome anything such as that. Sanitation Yes

Never go from the anus to the vagina, whether with fingers, toys, or penis, Get her more aroused, even bring her to orgasm, then try again Not something you want to happen if you are practicing safe sex - The ass needs specific lubricant, and the more the merrier, Pain is a body's way of announcing that something is wrong, Men Contradiction in terms you are thinking - Lube is good for getting you in but what about after. Anatomically speaking, there are two separate sphincter muscles surrounding the anal opening - Her experience in sex was just like mine but she has a vivid imagination Pain is the body's way of telling you something is wrong. Play, Penetration Ah, yes - Or else You should remain stationary and allow her to push her ass onto your cock Unless you are hung like Secretariat or she has specific physical issues, if this activity causes her pain, the two of you are doing something wrong. My last ex completely swore it off before we hooked up as she was raped (sodomized) many years before Now is not the time you shove into her ass and start banging away, There was the occasional anal sex but basically it was missionary position, her on top, doggie, and oral (me giving and me receiving), She should probably purchase her own equipment; she will know her own tastes. Simulation Toys Let her guide the action now; follow her direction, a BAD thing, Be mindful of sizes; they do seem to go from small to huge with no middle ground, Spitting may work for you but mostly it doesn't work for the ladies/men that receive. If you decide you really must do an enema, dump out the contents of what's in the bottle I hope this article has helped those of you who are interested in anal sex and needed some information on how to have a safe and fun experience, You can also achieve this by slowly stroking with a lubed finger. I wouldn't say we used the toy or even did anything with my ass every time we had sex but it was a nice addition, Be silly, nasty, whatever your turn-on, Be extra careful when you withdraw after cumming that she is on her side or in such a way that gravity will not cause any leaking cum to run down into/across her pussy, Caress and stroke her breasts, her nipples. Go back to foreplay In this way she can guide the speed, depth, and angle of penetration. It is thicker and allows for a nice smooth less painful entry if you can cum enough for him to use this as lube, Either way, always begin with well-lubed fingers. A very important element to remember during anal sex is the possibility of cross-contamination Go for naughty movies, stories, chat, erotic games - That night and the next few sessions were amazing You should be using your foreplay time to prepare your partner for anal later. Running with Scissors In the typical scissors position, she lies on her side with her legs spread and you lay behind her, entering her from the rear, Everywhere Anal Sex You've accomplished something tremendous It'll help keep her mind off what you are doing to her ass and make her less likely to tense up, Bring her to orgasm a time or two. Oils will start to dissolve latex condoms, Regular foreplay is a must before even attempting anal play, Pre-cum is an excellent lube if he can produce enough to cover his cock, You run the risk of transferring fecal bacteria, Essential. Also known as Sodomy, Greek love, Buggery, Booty sex, Backdoor loving, Dicking the derriere, Banging the bung hole, Reaming the rump, Probing the poop chute, Touring the Hershey highway, Raping the rectum, Packing the fudge, Traveling the old dirt road, Tossing the salad and plain old Butt fucking I asked her, "How are you going to fuck a guy if you are a gal So lets try to put that together in a sort of how to section here The many nerve endings in the anus can give intense orgasms to the recipient while the cock provider enjoys a clutching, tightened orifice Circle around her anus, tease, toy, and lightly push in the center - Of course it took a while but once I gotten used to it, it felt really good, Use lube In a short time you should find yourself enjoying anal Of course, starting in the pussy and winding up in the ass is just fine With love, time, effort, communication (and a bit of courage) you can meet your desires head-on It took some getting used to but I eventually did enjoy it, That will go away in time. It has no lubrication of its own, so you are going to need some from a bottle. Anal sex can be relatively clean.

For women, being anally impaled by a thick cock combined with clitoral stimulation is intense, Okay, so there are going to be people who snarl their nose at the idea or think it's disgusting, but don't let them color your perceptions or cool your desire, Do not attempt to force passage. Use gentle touches to start - Arousal: Being turned on can go a big way into helping easy the way for anal sex - Additionally, her anus may be so tight you may not be able to last as long as is typical for you Many people, including myself, choose to internally cleanse themselves before engaging in this activity All systems are go; it's time to get things moving Be honest; be completely direct about your feelings Work up to Penetration: Like previously stated, you can't just shove your cock inside her ass. The thicker the lube, the more staying power it has. Exhilaration Relax together, feel proud, The most popular toy was the butt plug. Then I met this one gal that was very open- minded Enjoy discovering new things you both enjoy, and with additional practice (don't forget to drill, drill, drill They usually require repeated applications during sex - What now Imagine her on all fours as you come up behind her, spreading her ass cheeks with your hands as you begin to lick, Looks can be deceiving, so before you probe, be positive of your location. Woof - And generally seem to only do it to hold onto the man in their life to keep him from wandering or maybe just feel it is their duty to please their mate - You could easily injure her sensitive tissues if you are not smoothly groomed - Even if you are only using a pinky finger to rim around her hole, use lube, And let me tell you gentlemen something about using other forms of natural lube such as spitting or some form of saliva. Follow your partner's lead Keep the lube handy so you can re-apply often Communication It can be very difficult to introduce the idea of anal sex into an established relationship A massage leading into more sexual play can be beneficial as well She can help things along by bearing down as if she needs to go to the bathroom, The internal sphincter, however, is a bit different - There are people who don't worry at all about that aspect of anal play, It is necessary that we begin matters by talking about, um, poop Condoms can help with that situation and many choose them every time with anal sex, though the majority of people report no problems going bare, No offense ladies but just because you are wet doesn't mean it's a good wet - Make sure you hold your place though It can break down the condom and cause holes, Erotically intense. One thing to note that isn't covered in the list above: Don't put fingers, a toy, or a cock in her pussy if it's been in her ass, Placement Go slow, and use plenty of lube - Start with her clit perhaps, licking, nibbling, blowing cool air * * * * * First of all people should understand that anal can be and usually is very painful especially if it is not done often After your fingers and before your cock, toys are a terrific way to help prepare her passage Lots of it - ve I had no idea what she was talking about Work on your stamina, At this time, your cock feels hard, hot and throbbing inside her Not all of them feel natural and most dry out so to speak fairly fast, Insertion should begin with the tiniest tip of the smallest finger Just enough pressure to keep your cock where it is and let her continue to push back into you, d, she started having orgasms before I was even all the way inside her, and she also has multiple anal orgasms Certain women, however, are simply not interested in this type of sex, Let her be the one to do the work at this point Also, urinating after sex (both of you) is a good way to help prevent infection, For many people, analingus, or rimming, is acutely erotic, Done properly, this technique is mind-blowing The thicker the cock the more painful it can be, The two of you need privacy, Both of you should know your own bodies, This How-To story is directed towards the male reader interested in exploring new territory with his female partner If she's had a good bowel movement earlier in the day, it's likely you won't have to worry about running into something you don't want to, Free blow job and facials youtube-like videos you always wanted Discomfort during initial penetration isn't uncommon - She knows her own body and by now you probably have a huge erection (which does tend to limit the blood supply to the thinking portion of your brain) Gentlemen, you should also come to terms with yourselves

This gives you the perfect opportunity to pleasure her breasts, her clitoris, and to watch her face as she climaxes, The very idea of anal sex is arousing to many, and this form of erotic pleasure is expanding the sexual repertoire of a growing number of lovers - If you're uncertain, just keep practicing When it comes to anal play and anal sex, you can never have enough lube Who knew, With practice and relaxation techniques it is possible to learn some control, but for the novice, this explains the occasional pain or discomfort As she relaxes, you can slowly enter her She then went to the fridge and took out a carrot - It is a perfect position for your hands to stimulate her breasts and your mouth to nuzzle her neck. " I had no idea what she was talking about plus I have never had anything in my ass, You'll discover that fact one wonderful night when she begs you to fuck her ass. Lubrication If your lady has been enjoying all of these things up until now, she probably has copious amounts of wetness, at least in her pussy, I realize many men enjoy being the receiver of anal sex along with women, but for the sake of simplicity in this how-to, I will use her to denote the receiver - Use your mouth. The inside flesh is very sensitive and abrades easily One important thing to note: if you aren't using gloves, make certain your nails are trimmed and you have no rough edges or corners, Make sure she is comfortable and in an easy access position like doggy for instance Since then we have broken up but I still held onto the toy Lube: The anal canal is not like the pussy, Some folks enjoy getting a bit "messy", others have sex in the shower to wash away any unexpected unpleasantness, Anything that can be done prior to penetration that feels erotic and makes your desire level rise could be seen as foreplay, Any thick water (or even silicone based) liquid or gel lube will do I have seen a few cases of ladies that love anal while some men find anal sex with women to be unattractive and a turn off A few old standards for the first time include: Ride 'em Cowgirl You lay on your back while she straddles your groin, facing you She had fantasies and was expressed them openly Explore your own asses, Being a dedicated lover of anal sex I hope to offer some helpful thoughts and suggestions. Once she's totally relaxed and stretched, you can increase the speed, but make sure she is ready before you do so Yeah You should spend lots of time hugging and snuggling before the main event - The basics have to include lube and preferably natural juices from your partner and yourself. This can be an intense sexual experience but it is meant to be shared Many actions can be taken to relax and prepare her. " She replied, "I would strap on a plastic cock and fuck him with it - Doing that can give her a nasty infection, Desiring anal sex is a perfectly normal want - She used to get so wet just inserting fingers into my ass Caress, nibble and lick parts within your reach; as you sense her relaxation, gently slide inwards, Begin a slow in and out stroke pattern, stopping for additional lubrication if necessary (Actually, it's terrific, For additional cleanliness, many people use condoms on their toys. Same rules apply here as for everything else And in the end, it's a helluva lot more fun than Masturbation - While not all people will need to follow every step, they are good guidelines to follow in order to make your anal sex encounter as enjoyable as possible. Next pleasure her wet pussy, making her writhe, and then finally make your way back, swirling your tongue around her ass Vaseline is not good if you are using a condom - Anyway, just thought sharing our experiences might be helpful to others. Don't just shove it in that just makes it hurt A really high percentage of all men I have ever known and/or discussed sex with has expressed either their love for anal or their longing to find a woman that will allow them to try PPS: Safe sex: if you use condoms, use a water based lubricant (and lots of it) if you are using latex condoms Perhaps that between loving couples almost anything is possible, Also, be sure you do the enema a few hours before the intended play or things might be uncomfortable for her The more pain she has the harder achieving your goal is - If you choose to go bareback, just remember that besides the disease issue, if you come in her ass, there is still a small possibility she can get pregnant if your cum leaks out of her ass and drips down and makes contact with her vaginal opening She was willing to give it another shot, and the first two sessions, the only thing I did was rub her anus during oral and rim her on a second occasion Of course, men should NEVER force this (for her first time) upon your partner during sex So you want to have anal sex. Although it would appear that the majority of women don't care for anal while the men love it. Her legs are spread and her knees are up high Relaxation: Very important for successful play, relaxation can make or break your session The type of lubricant is very important - Anal is the most longed for forms of sex yet the most unwanted. You should place the head of your cock to the rim of her hole

Water-soluble lubes work well with condoms and are soothing and slippery, The next time during sex she inserted 1 finger into my ass You've taken the first step by opening this article to get some good information about having successful anal sex - Ouch Plain warm water will work fine In due time she inserted another then another one until she had 3 fingers in my ass - Progress to gentle tonguing and then deeply probing her anus, and eventually use a combination of all your oral skills Why Not There is wet from being turned on and all but when you cum it has a different texture If she's a puddle of release, it'll be much easier to keep her relaxed when you start messing with her ass Working the head in and almost out but not all the way out is a good way to get deeper with less pain Relaxation Vital, We did some research on the net to see what toys were better for the ass then others There are many ways to approach this but a safe idea would be traditional comfort and reliability Soothing music, a glass of wine, even a hot bath beforehand can all lend to relaxation of her body and muscles. Don't try and push the entire finger in at once ) Anatomical Configuration She's clean or she's comfortable with her situation - I would say that our sex life was pretty normal Too much alcohol tends to dull nerves and sensitivities, and you really need all your faculties as you attempt this new skill Let her get used to the feeling of having something inside her ass, If she is still in pain you should try giving her pussy and/or nipples much needed affection, The sudden pain will certainly ruin the chance of future anal play with her and the definite loss of trust could possibly destroy your relationship Once I gotten used to 1 finger, 3 fingers were easy, Doggy works well for this because you can hold steady while she pushes into you applying just the pressure she needs to inch your cock into her, " She lubed it up and slowly inserted it into my ass. Work your way up from fingers to plugs or thin dildos, Anal plugs can be quite helpful; they can be worn for a longer period of time, causing tense muscles to relax, (Personally, when he is in my ass and my favorite vibrator is buzzing on my clit I am positively incoherent). One of her fantasies was to fuck a guy Kissing is a very good distraction as well Before you touch hers, it is important that you know the sensations and the sensitivities of yours Remember that pussy juices are the best - The last time we did anal, she actually passed out after her 3rd orgasm in a row You can use one hand in her pussy while the other on her hip, thigh, or shoulder to pull her into you - She may need recuperative time so you should wait a few days before attempting this again Anal sex should not hurt. Back rubs are nice, as are massages with lots of warm scented oil trickling down into her body crevices Only adults over the age of 18 are allowed to read this article Use your fingers, Popular brands include Astroglide, KY-Jelly, and ID (which is available in a pump dispenser) - Foreplay comes in many forms from licking to tickling etc. Orientation Positions. Once you've worked your way up to plugs or dildos, you can try for penetration with your cock. The forth time, she had multiple orgasms when we finally had anal intercourse, and now she swears she can come from anal stimulation alone and her anal orgasms are stronger than any other types I look forward to your feedback. Yeats wrote poetically of "love pitching his mansion in the place of excrement", and unfortunately, that is indeed appropriate to our situation - Some people wish to use latex gloves, especially if this is a new experience for both, That muscle is rarely the problem during anal sex, This can be startling for her, sometimes giving her the false sensation of needing to go to the bathroom, It contains chemicals you don't need, The tricky part of anal is getting in her without too much pain The rectum, however, is not the vagina You bring your lubed cock up between her cheeks, grasping her hips in your big hands, slowly pushing your thick cock into her tight ass while she gasps and squirms and. Some couples manage to incorporate this into their lovemaking - Take your time, ensure her eager arousal. They also coat the inside of the rectum, creating a wonderful breeding ground for germs Additionally, you should always AVOID any anal sex lubricant that has a desensitizing agent, It will make you a much better anal lover, and you just might find something else sexually that you enjoy When she's ready for you to start thrusting, do so slowly. Please enjoy, vote, and feel free to comment, Cleanliness: It's not necessary for her to have an enema before anal play or sex Just select whatever pleases you both One of the benefits of silicone based lubes is it refreshes and becomes slippery with a couple of droplets of water. Take your time you have as long as you need If you reach around and get your fingers/hand wet with her pussy you are bound to stimulate her which has an effect on the position of your cock

Coat your cock, her anus, and make sure enough is deposited inside her ass This is a strong topic for some and I do hope you prepare yourself for the details within before reading the article. PS: remember, Lube, Patience, Let her run the show. There are several keys to working your way up to anal sex See our user's amateur home archives Continue at a leisurely tempo and soon you'll be able to easily slide inside her loosening orifice, She is on her hands and knees, head down (perhaps on a pillow) ass up high, while you slide your body behind , She should slowly and at a pace she is comfortable with ease the cock in her Penetrate ever so slightly, and then back away, Ladies, if you are not committed to the idea, don't pursue it The rectum does contain bacteria and thus a very slight possibility of urinary tract infection for you, though she generally stands at greater risk - We are skipping the how you get to the bedroom with the hugging and kissing and all and getting to the actual business at hand, No offense meant guys - Neither one of you should drink to excess You don't want interruptions As you play you'll feel her anus gradually relax; now is the time to slowly slide your finger in deeply, However, anything else must be thoroughly cleaned after anal play before it can be used inside her. Don't go straight for her ass - The third time around, she came from oral w/my finger in her ass, Even if you think you have enough, use more, and then add a little bit more for good measure Oral Stimulation Ah, yes, Now that all sounded very technical didn't it. Again, I caution extreme patience One of the most important things to remember is sex is more enjoyable for most people with lots of foreplay, Anal sex can be immensely pleasurable for both the giver and receiver, Encourage your lady to take long hot bath and perhaps have a glass or two of wine (or her beverage of choice). Maybe so, but alas it is true. They are different kinds of muscles, and they function independently of each other. She actually came just by inserting the carrot into my ass, To help keep her relaxed while penetrating, play with her clit, You don't necessarily have to give up on it all together for that time - I wanted to pass a few suggestions to you guys if you are thinking about buying a toy for your ass or even your partner's ass Continue until you're in all the way, and then stop once again until her body adapts. No one believes that you can "accidentally" miss her pussy and impale her ass. You'll know when she's enjoying it and you can move further After complete insertion, you should pleasure her clit, or have her touch herself at your command Elation You're in her clutching ass up to your 'nads and her sighs speak only of lust This article is mainly from the aspect of the couple being male with female but even if that is not the case you might gain something from the article, Heavenly - Generally the soft jelly toys are the most comfortable for beginners, I pulled over and we went in and she went directly towards the toys, Senses are acute, energy is high, and you are almost there. Allow her time to adjust to the new and overwhelming sensations Withdraw gently, add more lube, and go back for more, Nope One day we were in the car and we passed a xxx store and she wanted to go in , I refer of course to an "enema", and taken several hours before sex should help prevent any surprises. Don't worry, it won't cause any problems with fecal matter, but it will help her sphincter muscles open and be more receptive to your cock Really, it's not, There are many types of oils/lubes available that you can purchase for many uses but you must be considerate when you use these - As long as it's not burning, searing pain, she can likely take some deep breaths and relax herself enough to continue Um, where was I, The plethora of nerve endings around the sphincter causes the intense pleasure that can felt during anal sex Additionally, they usually have a wide base to prevent the toy from sliding all the way inside the rectum Once you're fully inside still for a moment so she can get used to the feeling of having your cock inside her ass, - No matter how turned on she might be, if she's tense when it comes time for insertion, she's not going to enjoy it as much - Preparation Patience. A tongue around the asshole feels absolutely heavenly and can help the outer ring relax. Start small and slender, and gradually, over a period of weeks or months, work up in size, However, anal sex is not something you can just dive right into My favorite position is rear-entry or doggie style, She should be careful not to tighten her pelvic muscles as she sits astride. Though some call it the ultimate test of trust and love, I don't feel women should be compelled to do this as a "favor" for their partner, Since the area you penetrate isn't a holding area for fecal matter, unless she really needs to go to the bathroom, chances are you aren't going to run into anything but trace amounts Others prefer bare, She picked up a medium size butt plug and we bought it